1. I can be very emotionally present with others (friends, family, partners, strangers), but it takes me a while to build trust and share vulnerable things about myself.

2. I tend to be out of touch with my emotions quite frequently.

3. I feel very upset when others infringe on my need for space or time alone.

4. I feel naturally comfortable and safe expressing my feelings and needs to loved ones.

5. I often put other people in my life on a big pedestal. (Partner, friends, family)

6. If I notice my partner showing any signs of coldness, I stress and want to get closer as quickly as possible. This often happens to me in friendships as well.

7. It is very difficult for me to set boundaries unless I am angry. I can sometimes set excessive boundaries and push people away too dramatically out of anger.

8. I am effective at compromising and communicating.

9. I constantly want to be emotionally closer to my partner. This can also apply to my close friendships or romantic interests.

10. I am very attuned to others' needs and often put them before my own and resent it later.

11. I do not feel as though I need anything from my romantic partner or loved ones. It can be difficult to conceptualize how others would meet a lot of my needs.

12. When I feel hurt by a loved one, I often have a strong fight or flight response. I find myself wanting to push this person as far away as possible. (Friends, family, romantic relationship).

13. I often feel very hot or very cold towards my partner or family members. I tend to operate in extremes in how I relate to others.

14. It is not uncommon for me to experience inward emotional turbulence throughout the duration of my romantic relationship. This applies to close family members as well.

15. I find that setting boundaries comes naturally to me.

16. I do not like making social plans with others in advance. I often fear being trapped by commitments with other people.

17. I hunger for closeness, but I fear the emotional difficulty of it at the same time (friends, family, romantic partners).

18. If a loved one's behavior hurts me, I will express my feelings and try to understand what caused them to act that way.

19. I do not enjoy being out of romantic relationships. I often fear being alone.

20. I deeply fear being abandoned by my partner or love interests.

21. I would prefer to spend most of my free time with my partner if I were to be in a romantic relationship. It would be hard for me to want to do things separately.

22. I generally feel invaded when my partner or loved ones demand too much physical Intimacy or even affection.

23. I focus much more on the relationships in my life than I do on myself.